Do you seem to walk a little taller because you are married to a ballplayer? Does who your husband is make you feel different from others? How do you treat those around you? Do you look down on them because you feel they should be serving you? Do you treat stadium employees with respect or do you expect respect and service from them? How about the rookie's wife? Do you welcome her with open arms and friendship?
Do you remember the story Jesus washing the feet of his disciples? Jesus stood up and took off his outer clothing. Taking a towel, he wrapped it around his waist. Then he poured water into a bowl and began to wash the follower's feet, drying them with the towel that was wrapped around him. (John 13:4-5) Washing another’s feet was typically a task for the lowliest of servants, but by His example, Jesus shows us that no act of service is beneath his heart of love. Humbling ourselves to serve others is an act of love.
My experience as a “new girl” taught me a great deal. I'll never forget being left out in the cold as a rookie's wife. No one introduced themselves to me or even directed me to the wives’ lounge. As a 21 year old who had never been in a stadium of 50,000 people, I needed a friendly face. Back in the 80’s, that was just how it was – veterans’ wives didn't associate with rookies’ wives. It was then that I realized that we sometimes see ourselves above others.
After the game, I approached the security guard and asked for some help. He made me feel so special and escorted me to the wives’ lounge and introduced me to some coaches’ wives. They welcomed me and taught me some “baseball etiquette” and the way the game works. Even rookies’ wives had to put in our time, just as our husbands did. It was then that I decided I would never treat a "new girl" as if she did not exist. I also realized that no matter who you are, we are all equal.
During our career, I went out of my way to make friends with security, grounds crew and even some fans. Jesus allowed my heart to grow and reach out to all those who looked lost. These are all special friendships that we are depriving ourselves of by being prideful or setting ourselves apart from others. Set your pride aside, and use your spotlight to serve in God's Kingdom, not to glorify yourself.
The key to humility is knowing who you are. When you understand who you are, you're comfortable grabbing the towel instead of the spotlight.