"Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:32)
If we want to overcome comparison, we have to be able to identify it in our lives.
Sometimes it looks like jealousy, we can easily wish we were in someone else’s position or circumstance. Maybe your man and hers were neck and neck for a promotion and he got it - that’s hard! Maybe you have to stay home and work to make baseball doable, but you see so many others who travel full time - that’s hard. Maybe you travel full time and see women who are able to balance staying home and are actually able to invest in their own dreams and careers - I promise you, that’s hard too. It’s easy to look at the grass on the other side and think it’s greener, but I think most of the time we are just looking through green colored lenses.
Sometimes it looks like insecurity, feeling like we don’t measure up. I mean wow, I for sure have been there, “They are so cool, so well dressed, will they like me? They all seem to already know each other, will they include me? These girls have careers, homes, stability- what am I doing? Why am I the last of my friends to have kids, I’m not even sure I want kids, will they think less of me as a woman or not include me in their mom friend things?” Comparison from a place of insecurity causes us to make assumptions about other people before we even give them a chance to be relational - and is that not the whole goal as believers? To live in fellowship and community with one another?
Sometimes comparison comes from a place of pride, we think we have ownership over an idea or a position and find ourselves constantly gauging how other people measure up, and trying to assert our position of dominance. I go there more often than I care to admit. Honestly, that will just leave you isolated and stressed. Sometimes we see ourselves as being morally superior, like we are better or, dare I say it, less sinful than other people around us. That is just a flat out lie, we have all sinned and fallen short of God’s glory, and we all need forgiveness that comes from Jesus alone. Comparison from a place of pride shows that we have failed to see Jesus' sacrifice as being sufficient for everyone.
We have to know what comparison looks like if we want to break free from it. The bottom line - comparison is a trap that sucks us in and drags us down. Comparison is an ugly lie fed right to our very souls - a lie that causes the truth of who we are and how we are called to live to grow blurry and dim. When we succumb to the lies and fail to stay firmly planted in the truth, we will always suffer.
We can fight against the comparison trap by staying rooted in seeing the clear truth of who we are as children of God, stay tuned for that tomorrow!
Prayer: God, open my eyes to areas where I am weak. Help me to discern lies from the truth, and to live in a way that honors you.
Suggested Reading: Galatians 2:20