Have you ever helped a five-year-old tie his shoelaces? Or maybe you’ve tried to help a two-year-old to stay in the lines when he’s coloring... There are some things children just don’t want help with, and they’ll let you know – clearly. “NOOOOOOOO!” they’ll yell. “Let me do it myself!”
This is exactly what we do in our relationship with the Lord. Perhaps we’re a bit more subtle, but when all is said and done, it’s the same thing. We allow our children to make mistakes until they say to us, “Help me, please!” because it makes no sense to help them when they don’t want it. When they do ask us for assistance, we are very relieved, and we respond.
Jesus doesn’t force us to obey Him or do what He wants. He says to us, “Come to me...”
God knows you and He also knows when you need help and are ready to receive it. So we go to Him.
It’s exactly like the father that helps his son to tie his shoes. If God helped us when weren't asking Him for help, we would respond the same way we would if anyone offered us help in this moment. We believe we’re capable of fixing the problem ourselves, and that we are in control.
Jesus said that He wants us to go to Him. He is always ready to give us rest, lift our burdens, and refresh us.