"Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ." (Ephesians 1:3)
Well, I’m back with the rest of my story: Remember the interviewer of this national TV show had just turned to me, microphone in my face and asked something to the effect of…
“So Kim, Alvin plays baseball. What do you do????”
“Uh, Um….Oh…” I stammered! I didn’t know I had an identity crisis until that moment. Yet here I was being interviewed for television, and I was so flustered! I literally had tears in my eyes. Before this time of being newly married to this ballplayer, my identity was “I am a college student…aerobics instructor…synchronized swimmer…graduate student….etc.”
Now it seemed like it was not enough to say, “I am a wife.” I’m sure it was only a few moments before I recovered and said something about supporting him and traveling with him for now, but to me those few moments were an eternity. After that, I thought long and hard and realized that my problem wasn’t that I was now choosing to be a “wife” or “homemaker” and learning to be ok with that…rather my problem was that who I was had been completely wrapped up in what I did, even BEFORE I got married. This incident proved to me that I had an identity crisis when I was a college student, synchronized swimmer, etc. I just didn’t know it. It took those things being gone for me to realize the state of my crisis.
Author Paul David Tripp says that when we forget who we are in Christ, we become identity amnesiacs and easily replace our God given identity with replacement identities such as - achievement, acceptance in relationships, performance, or possessions. In contrast, our true identity is only found in Christ. The phrase “in Christ” encapsulates many concepts of identity for which we could write an entire book. Therefore, I encourage you to go to God’s love letter to you, His Word, and see for yourself who you are in Christ. Find out what He calls you and who are you because of His power and sovereign will. Find out who He is, since you are in Him. Discover what you have because you are in Him.
Remembering who I am in Christ is a lifelong process of knowing God better and resisting replacement identities. I am glad that God graciously started me on that journey 24 years ago. It is serving me well as I pass out of the season of my “mom” role and walk into the season of mid-life adventure. I actually believe that a mid-life crisis is truly an identity crisis, so even though I have many mid-life issues right now, I do not have a mid-life crisis. The truth of who I am in Christ does not change with seasons of life, roles, status, achievement, or failure. Wow! I’m so glad to be in Him!
Prayer: Heavenly Father, what riches you have given me in Christ. Help me to fully embrace who I am in Him and to live boldly in light of these truths, all for Your glory!
Suggested Reading: Ephesians 1